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What is Our Ultimate Concern? (video)

What is Our Ultimate Concern? (video)

Even in the midst of great disruption or loss, can we maintain balance? Can we remember who we are and all that we have?   Dharma teacher, Kaira Jewel Lingo, reminds us that joy is possible when we slow down and remember our deepest impulses.   We often want...

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Breathing your way home. (video)

Breathing your way home. (video)

Care partners often get so caught in the daily struggle.  Through our breath, we can ride a wave to feeling peaceful and safe. It is important to remember that we have a body. I hope this 5-minute video is helpful for you to come back home to your body.

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What Do Trees Have To Do With Caregiving?

What Do Trees Have To Do With Caregiving?

Caring for another can leave us feeling as though we are completely alone. The forest floor is a network of threads for trees to share their energy. Did you know that a tree that is dying will send its nutrients to others nearby so that they might thrive? Trees have a...

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Are we doing it right?

Are we doing it right?

Caregivers often tell me that they don't feel as if they are "doing it right". We all have days when we feel as though we just can't get grounded. When I question myself, it is almost always because I am frightened of what might lie ahead. I question my own judgment...

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Start humming for a sonic massage!

Start humming for a sonic massage!

Speaking of sonic massage, do you know what humming can do for you? Humming is a powerful tool in our stress reduction toolbox! Here are just a few benefits: Lowers Blood Pressure Increases the immune system Soothes the nervous system Lowers stress and anxiety Reduces...

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We have lost our patience!

We have lost our patience!

How patient are you these days? Our nerves are stretched to the limit lately.  Covid had made us so tired that we don't even want to hear the term Covid Fatigue anymore. The holidays are a source of confusion and anxiety as we try our best to navigate them alone or...

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Just for fun!

Just for fun!

  We all need to laugh! Toastmasters asks its members to follow suggested prompts or mini assignments to hone our various types of speaking skills. My prompt was to present a  proposal as practice, so  I came up with this presentation to a fictitious town board....

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Are you laughing or wondering?

Are you laughing or wondering?

My Grandma had such great lines for times when she felt there was nothing else to say. She would shake her head and smile. “You just have to laugh.”  Nearly as often, she would muse, “You just have to wonder.”  Most of us are wondering, but are we laughing? As...

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Tonight I wept.

Tonight I wept.

  Tonight I wept. I wept for so many things. The reason doesn't matter. I thought to myself -science says crying is good for us. It releases stress hormones from the body. I didn't give a shit about that. Then I made myself go outside for (probably) my last swim...

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Guilt – Is it True or False?  (video)

Guilt – Is it True or False? (video)

We all know that nagging feeling of guilt. It is an especially big obstacle for care partners.  Can we ever "get it right"? Especially now, in these months of COVID, I have heard from so many clients that they feel overwhelmed by guilt. When we feel true guilt we can...

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Choosing the Unimaginable (video)

Choosing the Unimaginable (video)

How can you cope with a decision to put your loved one into a long term care facility? I talk with many care partners who are facing this unanticipated choice because they are totally depleted. In this 6-minute video, I address some matters of the heart when it comes...

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Breathing your way home. (video)

Breathing your way home. (video)

Care partners often get so caught in the daily struggle.  Through our breath, we can ride a wave to feeling peaceful and safe. It is important to remember that we have a body. I hope this 5-minute video is helpful for you to come back home to your body.

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How often do you ask for help?

How often do you ask for help?

Sometimes care partners feel as if there is no help. Is that really true? Or is that something that you have come to believe? During the course of daily caring, it becomes so easy to decide that we are the only ones who can really do the job. Self-care entails so many...

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Feelings of Guilt

Feelings of Guilt

Everyone on the caring journey will feel guilt at one time or another. When I have been able to allow room in my heart for my own guilt everything changes...for the better!  Sometimes just saying "I'm sorry" makes a huge difference. There is an endless list of reasons...

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When you feel you are not enough.

When you feel you are not enough.

This evening is late as I write this.  It has been another of my days that reflects my old, nagging pattern, thinking that I did not get it all done. I often create such a daily to-do list that probably could not be accomplished by Wonder Woman, never mind me. Not all...

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You are never as helpless as you may feel.

You are never as helpless as you may feel.

When I first learned of my wife's dementia, I felt as though both of our worlds had come to an end. I felt utterly helpless in the face of this diagnosis. So often our minds race to the future, painting a picture that leaves us feeling completely powerless.

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Trauma is part of being human.

Trauma is part of being human.

Trauma does not mean always that we endured a major horror in life. It's part of everyday living.    So, what does that mean for you? What are the daily traumas that may be true for you as a care partner? It may be that you can't seem to get that call back from a...

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Care Partners Are Leaders

Care Partners Are Leaders

As a care partner, have you ever wondered why? We often say to ourselves “I didn't sign up for this!” “Why me?” We all have a preconceived script about how our lives will turn out but does it ever happen that way? Not often. When we attach to the belief that it should...

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When We Lose Our Focus

When We Lose Our Focus

Why are so many care partners having such a rough time? The daily physical demands can be overwhelming, of course. But it is more than just fatigue that caregivers are facing each day. The emotional drain for many caregivers is doing them in. The emotions we...

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Compassion Fatigue – What is it?

Compassion Fatigue – What is it?

Compassion fatigue is a well known occupational hazard for those in the caring profession. If it can happen to those in the caring field, imagine what it can be like for family caregivers! Compassion fatigue is characterized by physical and emotional exhaustion with a...

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